Monday, July 17, 2017

Rise Like The Phoenix

Rise Like The Phoenix
"Sometimes you just have to die a little inside in order to be Reborn and Rise again as a Stronger and Wiser version of You"

Life is a challenge, but a journey as well. You will face happy days, sad days and even horrible situations which will make your resolve crumble. But we have to learn from life's experiences, take a leaf out of teachings by others, experiences in life that are narrated to us by those who have gone through them and rise and shine again. 

It is another Re-awakening for you! As is so rightly said in the picture above and I reiterate - "Sometimes you just have to die a little inside in order to be Reborn and Rise again as a Stronger and Wiser version ofYou"

A classical example of this Rebirth is the Phoenix (in classical mythology) a unique bird that lived for five or six centuries in the Arabian desert, after this time burning itself on a funeral pyre and rising from the ashes with renewed youth to live through another cycle.

A rising Phoenix is a symbol of virtue and grace, a representation of Resurrection and victory. To many a Phoenix is a representation of a new beginning, that no matter how bad (hot) things may get , you will get back on your feet (rise out of the ashes). The Phoenix always rises from its own ashes. It can be a metaphor for picking yourself up when you are down.

As the legend goes, when the Phoenix resurrects and rises from the flames, she is even more beautiful than before.

By going through this process of fire and ice, we become like Healers. Healers are spiritual warriors who have found the courage to defeat the darkness of their souls; Awakening and rising from the depths of their deepest fears, like the Phoenix rising from the ashes. Reborn with a wisdom and strength that creates a light that shines bright enough to help, encourage, and inspire others out of their own darkness. 

The Phoenix and its rise from its ashes has a very deep undertone of serious introspection for all to do. Read this Interpretation to understand it better : 
"As long as we see ourselves as a mortal being, who is born, lives and dies we will miss the power of the Phoenix mythology. However if we see ourselves as our conscious awareness, and begin to observe that awareness, we will see that our awareness never changes. 

Think of awareness as a filter. We will see there are many dimensions and levels to this filter; viewing Creation through the interpretation of the human brain is only one such filter. 

If we observe carefully, we will see there are an infinite number of such filters, some more important than the others, at any given moment. Yet, our awareness is capable of choosing any filter it desires, if it is indeed aware of and awake to the existence of that filter.

In the end the Phoenix mythology describes the process of changing the filter we use to experience Creation."

Remember at the outset that "To rise from the ashes like the phoenix", or to make a miraculous comeback. You will experience a personal renaissance: a triumphant recovery from a setback, be it heartbreak, illness or financial struggle. You surprise and surpass the opposition or competition. You understand the meaning of rebirth: you will never be defeated."

The Phoenix mythology teaches you a lot - 
It teaches you that you have to rise above the pain -
The Phoenix mythology teaches you so much - Turn your Demons into Art, your Shadow into your Friend, your Fears into Fuel, your Mistakes into your Teachers, and your weaknesses into reasons to keep fighting. Don't waste your pain. Recycle your Heart. 

Keep Going – That pain you feel? – That’s fear melting away like wax off a candle. That’s weakness washing out of your pores like a monsoon. That’s the old you being shed away like dead skin. That’s the new YOU rising out of the ashes of your former self. 
The Phoenix proudly says – “You’ve seen my descent – Now watch my rising”.

Life will give us various challenges, but these challenges are meant to make us stronger. Face them, take them on as lessons and stepping stones to success, and when some of them really test all your patience, determination, integrity, and your very character, learn from the phoenix to give it your best and if need be burn and rise from those ashes. 

I could continue writing endlessly but will conclude with my most powerful lines - 

"Now watch me rise up and leave all the ashes you made out of me, and when you tried that, you were wrong, because - life goes on and you only helped me to be reborn - stronger and wiser".

Friday, July 14, 2017



Just yesterday I had posted a Foreword to my post "MY MIDDLE FINGER SALUTES YOU" - The post was a dare all bare all post opening up to the general people how some people who call themselves your friends can be so downright rude, mean and make your life so miserable that you live every day in dread. I would like not like to post the very hard hitting post that I was working on to be edited with some very strong words and images, but would like to express my sincere apologies to GOD first for losing my cool and, for a moment also the trust that I have always had in him. God possibly saw the pain behind my sudden burst of emotions which was totally unlike me. Here is a brief summary of my horrid journey. I do not want to justify myself to anyone as GOD alone knows what I have gone through, but this could be a lesson to many who may be going through similar situations and are cowed down by the hard hitting behavior of others that makes them stay on the back foot. 

Sad to say that we make friends without realizing or even seeing through their true colors. Even hard to believe and digest when a friend of over 20 years who you thought to be your family friend, guide and mentor stabs you in the back, and treats you like an outsider or rather outcast. Over the past 4-5 years, this friend who we both had helped one another emotionally, financially in times of our most difficult times started treating me like dirt. He was abusive, threatening, maligning and even barging into my home almost running up on me. I was already going through a very bad phase, and no amount of reasoning could make him see reason. I then realized he was taking undue advantage of my soft-spoken nature and my lack of aggressiveness. If I wanted I too could have reacted in a very strong way as I was never at fault, but as he has had a By-pass surgery I was more worried for him that any untoward reaction from my side could possibly be fatal for him. There were many incidents in his own family which I had witnessed which I only knew personally but had not told him to avoid any shock to his mind. I was always forgiving and understanding, but was this what I to get in return for all this kind bigheartedness of mine? 

My sudden burst of emotions yesterday came forward through the foreword of my much more intense post which was due to be posted today as I was adding all the information that had to express in that post. Possibly GOD felt the pain, and thought it better to intervene. Shockingly I received a call from this same friend yesterday afternoon almost immediately after I had posted my foreword. I was already emotionally wrecked and was expecting a barrage of abuses and threats from him, but surprisingly he was totally calm, apologetic and even almost in tears. I could not believe my eyes, when he expressed his sincere apologies for all his behavior, almost sobbing between words, and what transpired between us in those few minutes cannot be described in words. I again was more worried that he being a Heart Surgery Patient should not over strain himself and have any repercussions on his health so heard him out, and expressed my happiness and satisfaction to the fact that whatever be the miracle for him seeing reason he had the courage to talk to me and sort it out. I have never felt a sense of more satisfaction and peace of mind than when I heard his voice, and words so sincerely feel every shame and apology for all that he had done. It was truly GOD's Miracle. 

At the outset, in fact the True proof will come when he is coming to visit me in the afternoon today to personally extend his apologies and patch up for a new beginning. All I can say to God is Thank you God, and sorry for having for a while lost the trust that you are always there to take care of my problems. I await eagerly with bated breath the few hours that separate that glorious moment where God's Own Miracle will prove to us all what I have always been trusting all along that " I am not smiling that I am stronger than my problems, I'm smiling because God is stronger than all my problems, and he always there behind me! 

Wednesday, January 25, 2017



What I have given here is an account of musings, thoughts my writing on what is the actual situation in life today. But we all tend to overlook it either for fear of social stigma or for reasons of self reprisal or introspection. The question here is not about who is smarter, or wiser but to get the best out of the prevailing situation which has become an alarming factor for both our Older Generation as well as the New Generation and the Generations to come! Let us take a crystal clear and transparent view of this situation. The topic may seem very simple but if you give it a deep thought you will all realize that there is more than meets the eye!

I have cited certain traits and habits and even lifestyles of various generations, but when I use the tags poor, illiterate or rich I do not mean to demean or convey any sort of disrespect to any generation, but only to classify them in context with this article and the total scenario. There is so much to write about but I have taken only the general scenario.
Years ago, even families of poor illiterate  parents of generations yonder produced-Doctors,Engineers,Scientists, Accountants, Lawyers,Architects, Professors, ....whom I will refer to as Group 'A'.

These Group 'A' Children struggled on their own after Primary 6 or Grade 12, to become notable personalities.

They lived a simple life, simple attire, and most of them trekked to school barefooted went to farms fetched water and firewood, cared for domesticated animals, and even did some work after school to survive.

Now Group 'A', who have now become Parents themselves are producing  Group 'B' Children.

These Group 'B' children are  pampered,  helped in their homework or home assignments from nursery school through secondary schools even right up to higher institutions and how.....

They have - 
*Chauffeur driven cars, and go to very expensive schools or are even sent abroad to study.
*They can watch movies from morning till dawn after school or while away on their mobiles as they want.
*They are treated like baby kings and queens. They don't do any household chores or even help their parents.
*Food is put on the table for them,  their plates are removed and washed by parents or house maids.
*They are given expensive cars and clothes, not forgetting big pocket money to be wasted !!!.
*Their parents help them in doing their assignments  and even their daily chores. 

In spite of all these, only few can  speak, write correctly or behave in a civilized manner, befitting or doing justice to the treatment they have received from the parents.
 Group 'A' Parents  cared for their own parents and children.

Group 'B',Let alone caring for the parents, these children are still struggling to find their feet at age 30+let alone care for their parents.

 They find it difficult to do things on their own because they are used to being helped to think and doing things by Group 'A'. Some of them find it demeaning to do daily chores, or help their parents and even go further to expect that it is the responsibility of their parents to give them all these facilities.

So they find it difficult to help themselves, their parents or the society.


Where do you belong? Give it a thought!

Maybe the above scenario may not apply to all families, and is more prevalent in only either the Middle Class or Lower Middle Class of People, more so because those of the Upper Class have little time even to think about such happenings. The Parents are too busy attending their own parties, meetings, events, Kitty-Parties and functions to even see what their children are doing or how they are behaving. Or alternatively because of their financial position they have showered too much of their wealth on their children which allows them to take care of themselves and their needs albeit alienating themselves from the true family values and atmosphere that one sees in the Middle and Lower Class.

What is missing in this whole picture are those pure and infinitesimal but all so important family values which we all experienced in the Older Golden Generations. Values such as Respect for Elders, Caring, Compassion for all family members, a sense of responsibility and accountability in every aspect of living with a family, and a deep sense of giving. 

There is Serious Food for thought for both the Generations - That of the Parents and that of the their Children , in so far as what their individual roles are and should be in a family. 

Parents should give a little more thought to...
*Reduce the pampering and the unnecessary help you offer your children.
*Let your children grow in wisdom, intelligence and strength.
*Let them face the truth and the realities of life.

*Teach them to grow  to become independent but disciplined, responsible adults.
*Teach them to fear God,respect others and develop confidence in themselves.
* Teach them to be Useful citizens and not Useless citizens.

Children on the other hand should remember....
*All children love to be pampered and loved but do not allow this to take the better of you and take it as your right to get pampered.
*Your wisdom, and intelligence should come from life's experiences, learning from your parents, and elders, and not necessarily from just reading books. Life is the biggest teacher, and books and education is all important but encompasses those same experiences of our parents and forefathers in the form of writing and musings which have been penned down in words. 
* Your parents have been protective not to see you hurt , but in real life learn to face the realities of life yourself and above all be truthful.
* When parents discipline you it is for your own good, so learn to become disciplined, independent and responsible children. 
* Never take your parents for granted or expect things out of them as being "Their Responsibility " as parents. They know what is best for you.
* Always remain God-fearing not in the literal sense of the Word God but of that supreme being that is above all and has given us this wonderful Universe and all that we derive from it. 
* Respect for others irrespective of whether they are your parents, friends, elders, neighbors, colleagues or other wise is of utmost importance and will stand you in good stead all through your life. 
* You are the future of this world and your country and it is for you to become Useful Citizens and proud children of your parents rather than Useless. 
*Care for your parents and keep them with you until the very end , because they deserve it as much as you will need someone when you are in their situation.

Come let us together give a serious thought to the above and try to help one another in becoming Responsible Parents and Responsible Children of a Happy Family and a Happy Society!