Wednesday, January 25, 2017



What I have given here is an account of musings, thoughts my writing on what is the actual situation in life today. But we all tend to overlook it either for fear of social stigma or for reasons of self reprisal or introspection. The question here is not about who is smarter, or wiser but to get the best out of the prevailing situation which has become an alarming factor for both our Older Generation as well as the New Generation and the Generations to come! Let us take a crystal clear and transparent view of this situation. The topic may seem very simple but if you give it a deep thought you will all realize that there is more than meets the eye!

I have cited certain traits and habits and even lifestyles of various generations, but when I use the tags poor, illiterate or rich I do not mean to demean or convey any sort of disrespect to any generation, but only to classify them in context with this article and the total scenario. There is so much to write about but I have taken only the general scenario.
Years ago, even families of poor illiterate  parents of generations yonder produced-Doctors,Engineers,Scientists, Accountants, Lawyers,Architects, Professors, ....whom I will refer to as Group 'A'.

These Group 'A' Children struggled on their own after Primary 6 or Grade 12, to become notable personalities.

They lived a simple life, simple attire, and most of them trekked to school barefooted went to farms fetched water and firewood, cared for domesticated animals, and even did some work after school to survive.

Now Group 'A', who have now become Parents themselves are producing  Group 'B' Children.

These Group 'B' children are  pampered,  helped in their homework or home assignments from nursery school through secondary schools even right up to higher institutions and how.....

They have - 
*Chauffeur driven cars, and go to very expensive schools or are even sent abroad to study.
*They can watch movies from morning till dawn after school or while away on their mobiles as they want.
*They are treated like baby kings and queens. They don't do any household chores or even help their parents.
*Food is put on the table for them,  their plates are removed and washed by parents or house maids.
*They are given expensive cars and clothes, not forgetting big pocket money to be wasted !!!.
*Their parents help them in doing their assignments  and even their daily chores. 

In spite of all these, only few can  speak, write correctly or behave in a civilized manner, befitting or doing justice to the treatment they have received from the parents.
 Group 'A' Parents  cared for their own parents and children.

Group 'B',Let alone caring for the parents, these children are still struggling to find their feet at age 30+let alone care for their parents.

 They find it difficult to do things on their own because they are used to being helped to think and doing things by Group 'A'. Some of them find it demeaning to do daily chores, or help their parents and even go further to expect that it is the responsibility of their parents to give them all these facilities.

So they find it difficult to help themselves, their parents or the society.


Where do you belong? Give it a thought!

Maybe the above scenario may not apply to all families, and is more prevalent in only either the Middle Class or Lower Middle Class of People, more so because those of the Upper Class have little time even to think about such happenings. The Parents are too busy attending their own parties, meetings, events, Kitty-Parties and functions to even see what their children are doing or how they are behaving. Or alternatively because of their financial position they have showered too much of their wealth on their children which allows them to take care of themselves and their needs albeit alienating themselves from the true family values and atmosphere that one sees in the Middle and Lower Class.

What is missing in this whole picture are those pure and infinitesimal but all so important family values which we all experienced in the Older Golden Generations. Values such as Respect for Elders, Caring, Compassion for all family members, a sense of responsibility and accountability in every aspect of living with a family, and a deep sense of giving. 

There is Serious Food for thought for both the Generations - That of the Parents and that of the their Children , in so far as what their individual roles are and should be in a family. 

Parents should give a little more thought to...
*Reduce the pampering and the unnecessary help you offer your children.
*Let your children grow in wisdom, intelligence and strength.
*Let them face the truth and the realities of life.

*Teach them to grow  to become independent but disciplined, responsible adults.
*Teach them to fear God,respect others and develop confidence in themselves.
* Teach them to be Useful citizens and not Useless citizens.

Children on the other hand should remember....
*All children love to be pampered and loved but do not allow this to take the better of you and take it as your right to get pampered.
*Your wisdom, and intelligence should come from life's experiences, learning from your parents, and elders, and not necessarily from just reading books. Life is the biggest teacher, and books and education is all important but encompasses those same experiences of our parents and forefathers in the form of writing and musings which have been penned down in words. 
* Your parents have been protective not to see you hurt , but in real life learn to face the realities of life yourself and above all be truthful.
* When parents discipline you it is for your own good, so learn to become disciplined, independent and responsible children. 
* Never take your parents for granted or expect things out of them as being "Their Responsibility " as parents. They know what is best for you.
* Always remain God-fearing not in the literal sense of the Word God but of that supreme being that is above all and has given us this wonderful Universe and all that we derive from it. 
* Respect for others irrespective of whether they are your parents, friends, elders, neighbors, colleagues or other wise is of utmost importance and will stand you in good stead all through your life. 
* You are the future of this world and your country and it is for you to become Useful Citizens and proud children of your parents rather than Useless. 
*Care for your parents and keep them with you until the very end , because they deserve it as much as you will need someone when you are in their situation.

Come let us together give a serious thought to the above and try to help one another in becoming Responsible Parents and Responsible Children of a Happy Family and a Happy Society!